Hello everyone,

Just wanted to come here and express my feelings about this situation that is going on in my life. I just want to feel at peace and have another opinion aside from friends and family; more objective than biased. Also my first language is spanish i hope i explain it well.

March 2024 my mom (54) who is widowed 13 years. started dating a man (42) younger than her. They met at his restaurant, and for context my friend recommended this place because he is friends with her boyfriend who have know each other since he was little. We are all 24.

The day after, i told my friend about us going to the place, she told me she had to tell me something.

She said he said “you should introduce me to your pilot friend “. I have a picture on my ig with a Cessna. And it was whatever bc i thought we’d never see him again. But the weeks went by and my mom and him started seeing each other and started dating.

In the beginning it was a little uncomfortable and awkward. I never told anyone about this just my friend. Then i just let it go, seeing my mom excited for him and he has never disrespected me in any way. I just forgot and everything was normal.

Until recently, he went into bankruptcy and was supposed to go work in the oilfields and supposedly he was waiting a couple of days to leave. So what he did is he didn’t renew his lease and moved in with us.

There are so many things that upset me and my sister at the moment. Yes, we knew one day my mom would move in with someone and continue with her life. She’s had official boyfriends throughout these 13 years but we NEVER had someone move in with us. And we really want her to be happy, but we just don’t think he is the one.

He makes jokes like my mom is his sugar momma, and other jokes that I don’t remember. But i can see it how he is gradually just making her feel older. I really don’t like him anymore. And I don’t know what to think. Because i feel sometimes that he is an opportunistic man. I just feel like he has victimized the way into my mom’s life. Always saying how he struggled in his last marriage, how his business isn’t going well. And at this point my mom is way better economically. He’s even said infront of my sister, mom, and I that he would never marry again. That he’s already been through that and he wont do it again as a joke but i know he means it. His character just irritates me. I know he is just playing with my mom. And i feel that my mom is accepting this relationship because she wants to feel like she’s breaking social norms or something. But this is so unnecessary she deserves someone better. The other day he mentioned he would have rights to my mom’s assets if they lived together for more than six months.

It’s the little jokes that he says that I analyze and take very seriously.

I just don’t want him to take advantage of my mom. I feel like he rushed his way into my mom’s life. They’ve only known each other for 6 months and he already moved in with us😭

I always imagined it would be the other way around. That my mom would find a good protective and well mannered man. My mom is so much smarter that this.

But I don’t know, i may be right or maybe ive just antagonized him from the very beginning.

What should i do? It’s about to be a month of him being here. It was supposed to be days.