This is kind of long but feel the details are important. My husband is not the perfect person we argue a lot, he doesn’t help much with the kids or home. What I loved about him was that we were high school sweet hearts been together 15 years and married 6. he was always very loyal. We never worried about cheating never checked each others phones etc… sure i would get curious and check his phone every once in a while but never ever found anything interesting. Well last week was having extreme vaginal pain. Went to doctor and they said it looked like herpes and they would swab to be sure but started me on the meds.. they did tell me i had some changes in my vulvar skin as well so that if it was not herpes i need to come in for a vulvar biopsy this was very scary to me as my aunt died of vulva cancer. My husband swore up and down he never did anything. the herpes medication seemed to be working so i really felt it was that but due to us never having issues with infidelity before i believed him and started preparing myself for a biopsy and cancer diagnosis. Also i begged him to tell me if he did anything and told him i would give him a one time pass to tell me the truth and he swore nothing. well results come back positive for HSV-1. the swabs they took of my vagina were positive but my blood was negative meaning a new infection. He finally admitted that a while back (like 12 year ago) he cheated on me with a stripper that she asked him to buy her a drink he did then she gave him a drink they went to the back and were kissing and he ate her out 🤮 and then as she was giving him a blow job his boner went away so they didn’t go any further.

1. I don’t even know if i believe this story that it didn’t go any further

2. i’m disgusted because like i said we were high school sweethearts so we supposedly had only done sexual stuff with each other

3. i begged him to tell me if he did anything and he swore he didn’t letting me worry i had the same cancer my aunt died from.

4. im not sure i believe he didn’t do anything recently the doctors did say it’s possible the herpes laid dormant in him until now and since i was so stressed with my work my immune system was down making me susceptible to catching it

i’m not sure what to do now. he is begging for my forgiveness. it sucks now i have an incurable STD. He also keeps saying it was so long ago it was a mistake but he just told me now so it’s all fresh to me 😕