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video games didn’t make the guys you dated shitty. they were just shitty on their own and probably just liked their games more than you. my bf plays video games and has never once ignored me to play them. stop assuming the worst of your kid. Yes you should be supportive of him, it will mean alot to him
Would you go just to be supportive?
I hate video games and I hate gamers. I have dated too many gamers and it ended with me being ignored for video games. I have made sure all my kids have done different sports. Scouts. Clubs. My 17 year old has tried them all and he still drifted to video games. He saved up to buy his own game systems and video games. Because we live in a world where you can make money for stupid shit, he wants to be a streamer/professional gamer. So he has gotten into esports and has been to a few esports competitions. I've never been to any. I don't like it. He has one coming up and he did personally say "You don't have to go. I know you hate video games. But I would like you to." Now I feel really bad. I don't like that I knocked something he really liked. I just don't want him to treat girls how I was treated where I was basically ignored for video games. My fiancè made a point in saying that he will probably just find another gamer girl for him. I feel bad. I don't consider video games a "sport" but I know he wants me to go.
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You cannot hate videos and gamers because you picked shitty men. I’ve been with my partners for 15 years and they are gamers. They have always treated me well. It’s not the video games, it’s the men. Why wouldn’t you support your child? It’s ridiculous to punish your child for what your past relationships did. I will always support my child and their hobbies. Gaming pays very well if you’re really good at it.
I'm not into sports at all. I only knew a bit about football because i was in pep band/marching band. I hate the Super Bowl and pretty much all to do with it. My youngest child is really into football. They love it and are really good at it. I go to every game, cheer them on and listen intently to what they have to say about it. It's not about football it's about showing up for my children like i wanted and needed growing up. It's terrible knowing your parent would rather do anything else than to support your passions. I hated winning anything in marching band because when we'd receive our trophies, I was always the only one with no one to cheer for me from the stands. We got first place at every competition and my section kicked ass. My parents have no idea how amazing i was. That was when i was 14-16 yo, I'm 37 and it still hurts my heart to remember that. Go and be present for your child
I get you’ve had some bad experience with gaming but you are projecting a lot and in order to support your son, I think you need to do some work on healing. It’s coming across as very immature and selfish. You are his parent and should be his biggest supporter. I think your past experience is clouding your perspective. You have an opportunity to help your son be aware of the risks of isolation and disconnecting with loved ones if gaming is managed badly, it might even help you in healing from your own trauma.
Im gonna get a lot of hate for this but I am with you on the gaming, it's addictive and a majority of guys get really hooked on it and spend hours a day on it which is not really normal for any other hobby to spend THAT much time on it, then they end up neglecting time spent with their family, chores, friends etc. Some can balance it but many cant. That said, your son is almost an adult. At this point, the best you can do is talk to him about your concerns eg what is his plan b if he doesnt earn enough (same talk I would have with my kid who aspires to other freelance type careers eg music, art, acting etc) and the importance of balancing it with other priorities and interests....and then support him in his choices.
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