Back story. I was with guy on and off for 5 years. This was right after I graduated high school. We separated because it wasn’t a healthy relationship(very toxic). I pretty much ghosted him after we broke up. Fast forward to 3 years we attempted friends with benefits but I wasn’t really feeling it and he was overly protective saying he doesn’t kiss people he’s not in a relationship with. And wanted to use protection as we had previously been in relationships with other people. I hadn’t really healed from when we were together previously and then elected to just fall all the way back. We both moved on did our own thing. Fast forward to current, I still have feelings for him but he says that he isn’t ready for a relationship. He wants me to have sex with him and kiss on him. And constantly wants to sit up under me. I let it be known that I was only using protection as we are not together. He asked what are we and I told him friends. Now he’s offended. He also questions what I’m telling my family about our situation which honestly I’m not telling them much. They know we are friends but he hasn’t told his family anything about us being back on the friend level. He’s come to a couple of my family events with me and I let it be known to family that we are just friends. He has also asked me to get an apartment with him. So am I the asshole? Am I reading too much into things because he’s making it seem like I’m wrong for only considering us friends at this point. My mom thinks I should give it another chance and I’m he’s possibly changed but she doesn’t know about most of the stuff that happened in our past.