I’m in my first relationship with a guy who has a child, and we’ve been together almost a year. He introduced me to his daughter and her mother months ago. Initially, planning dates was easy since we coordinated around his daughter’s schedule. Now, her mother frequently creates problems right before our plans.

For example, we had to cancel a date when she said she had to work, but his daughter later revealed it was just a “prank”. Another time, during a planned picnic and arcade date with his daughter included, she “forgot” it was his day and didn’t drop their daughter off or respond to messages of him blowing her up for nearly half the afternoon. By the time she responded, it was too late to go since she had school. Most recently, after I planned a movie night and he confirmed two weeks in advance with her mother, she suddenly had an “emergency” three hours before and needed him to get her. That emergency being her car not starting and her denying my boyfriend’s help to pick her & their daughter up, drop them to her home, go back and jump-start her car and bring it to her but instead she said she’d rather him take their daughter for the night as she tries to find someone to fix her car???

I understand emergencies happen with kids, but it’s starting to feel deliberate. How should I handle this?? I don’t sense tension and there’s never drama when we’re around each other so what’s going on? Or am I the one overthinking this?