Why doesn’t it get easier?

Question

I was with my kids father for 10 years. We split almost 2 years ago because he cheated on me. He is with the girl he cheated on me with and I’m still alone with no one. I was on a dating app and saw that him and his gf had a joined account on it because he viewed my profile. And I just can’t help but wonder if I just gave in and had three somes like he wanted, or allowed a third party into our relationship then maybe I would still have him with me. My kids would still have their dad inside the home. I can’t help but feel sad. I deserve to be happy but yet I’m not and the person who hurt me so badly is getting everything he ever wanted and it just hurts so much.

Answer

Ohhh girly, I really want to give you a hug so bad. I am soooo sorry! It's ok to feel sad, but like the other comments say, you should look into therapy. Just know there is nothing you could've done to make a leaver stay. I know it might not feel like it, but you are way better off. Your person is put there waiting, and if he hasn't yet appeared it's because you still need to work on yourself, you have not healed therefore you could not be good for him. Therapy would be amazing, but a very effective way to start your healing process is to get your body moving. Start working out and getting yourself in the best shape possible. Make it a point to love yourself as much as you love your loved ones. Glow up, do all the things you would want a man to do for you. Take yourself on dates, buy yourself a massage, travel. Watch YouTube channels like Shallon Lester and Jaz turner. Make yourself your finest investment. You are not a second choice, you are your greatest asset, but you need to treat yourself like such. Whoever downvoted you is a moron. You were so vulnerable and sound like a very sweet person. You're on your way to being your happiest, I promise!!!

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You wouldn’t have been happy having threesomes and stuff. But you can actually be happy without him. You should really get into therapy.

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Maybe you should get into therapy. After two years, you have to start to move forward and let go. I get that’s easier said than done, especially since you have to see him still (I’m assuming?) so I’m not judging you
But know that none of this is your fault. Anyone who is old enough to have even just A child is old enough to understand that if you’re not compatible, you end it instead of cheating

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You need therapy. 
Your relationship didn’t fail because you didn’t have a threesome. And at this point, you should be coping better and able to come to terms. Please see a professional.

Why doesn’t it get easier?

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