What would you do?

We have been married for 6 years and have one child together. Our sex life has been super dry since the birth of our daughter. We have sex maybe 3 times a month and every time we do- I’m always the one who has to initiate it. Which exhausts me mentally and has gotten very old over the last couple years.

He’s complained about our lack of a sex life for a while now. Everytime I try to fix it and think it’s going well, it always ends up back in the same routine. And it’s ALWAYS my fault.

Lately, he has mentioned divorce and even talked about looking elsewhere for sex. Which truly breaks my heart. I do everything for our family- housework, taking our kid to school, grocery shopping, etc. He’s a disabled veteran and doesn’t work and just stays home all the time.

I think the thing that really broke me was the other day when I walked in his room and tried to be flirty and rub on his “downstairs” while he was playing a video game. He looked at me and got super mad saying “you don’t get to choose when we do try to have sex” and “I have accepted that I am not going to beg for it, I play games now to replace that part of my life.”

I truly don’t know what to do. I don’t feel desired or loved anymore. He won’t flirt with me or hardly even kiss me most days. I don’t get compliments on anything I do or even told I’m pretty on days that I need to hear it. He doesn’t sleep with me at nights either. I’m exhausted and really don’t know if we need to just call it quits at this point or seek out counseling. I already feel like I’m single.

I’m not really sure what I’m asking for in this post. Just wanting to vent, I guess. Any advice is much appreciated. ❤️ At this point I can’t stop crying randomly in the middle of the day and haven’t really had a real conversation with him about it.