If you go to visit your in-laws, and their dog will not stop licking and sniffing your 2 months old baby (especially head and face), is it unreasonable to ask them to put the dog downstairs?

My in-laws love their big 120 pound dog (mix but definitely great Dane, German shepherd, and lab in there) and it is obsessed with our baby. The first time we went to visit them, the dog would not leave our baby alone. The dog is constantly right by our daughter and is sniffing her but mostly licking whatever part of her he can reach. Unless you're telling him to go away constantly, he will spend the entire visit sniffing and mostly licking my daughter.

We can't let my in-laws hold our daughter because they will do nothing to stop the dog from licking her and they'll even encourage the dog to give her kisses and sniff her. We've since been up several times to visit and each time, we ask them to put the dog downstairs. They refuse.

Our visits have been short and sweet because we have to be the ones holding our daughter. They get upset that we won't let them hold her unless the dog is downstairs and say that we're being rude towards the dog and it's an unreasonable ask to make the dog go downstairs when this is his home.

We said you're more than welcome to visit us then, but they refuse because we won't allow their dog on our furniture (we don't have any pets) and they feel that rule hurts the dogs feelings and makes their dog feel unwelcome. We said leave the dog at home then. He spends all day at home while they work, so a three hour window while they're out is not a huge deal.

Today we got into a fight with them because they refuse to visit us without their dog, and we won't visit them because their dog won't leave our daughter alone. They're upset that they haven't seen their grandchild in a while. We suggested a dinner out or a public outing but they refused and said they want to have us over. We said ok, but the dog needs to be downstairs. They refused.

Somehow it's unreasonable to ask your host to put their dog downstairs while they have a visit with their infant granddaughter, but it's not unreasonable to ask a host who does not have pets to allow your 120 pound dog who sheds like crazy on their furniture. They also won't let us put him downstairs when they visit so it's the same problem just at our house now.

I don't know what else to do. They refuse to even compromise and my husband says it's their own dumb fault. I just feel awful because I want them in my daughter's life, but I don't want this giant dog licking her for two hours while we visit.