home birth?

Question

hospital settings give me severe panic attacks and anxiety. I’m not sure if I’m gonna have my last baby in the hospital. I would rather have my baby in the comfort of my own home but at the same time, I’m scared of hemorrhaging that i know of. 
my last two births I did bleed pretty good but i didn’t hemmorage or anything. These past few years I’ve had an increase of anxiety when I’m in a hospital or doctors office setting I have no idea why but my blood pressure and heart rate always skyrocket when I have a doctors visit or an OB appointment. i really want my last baby but the thought of being in a hospital for some reason scares the shit out of me and i didn’t have this fear with my last two babies. there’s only one Ob in my office who i trust and i won’t allow anyone but him to deliver my baby if i had to go to a hospital. it’s either me or him. The reasoning for this I feel like it because my last pregnancy was healthy and I did have an easy labor and postpartum, but she was premature and the OB inserted an IUD without my consent as soon as i pushed my daughter out (I had an epidural so I didn’t even know what she was doing. She told me she assumed I wanted it because I had it before ) and I was in severe pain a few weeks after I got home from the hospital and ever since i have a sour taste for hospitals.

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I have always LOVED the idea of a homebirth but for me personally I would never actually want to fully go through with one. There’s so many risk factors associated with homebirths that I feel definitely do not outweigh the positives. Unexpected respiratory distress or nicu stays, hemorrhages or fetal distress are all fairly common ( and I mean common for complications not common in every birth) that can have very dire consequences if not handled fast in a hospital setting. What I did for my births ( and what I would plan on for my next baby if we had one in the future) would be to labor at home with a doula in a very calm environment before heading to the hospital for the actual delivery. You can still labor naturally and in the comfort in your own home if it’s deemed safe by your doula and provider. You can also set the tone for your delivery in your actual l&d room. Fairy lights, oil diffusers, personal playlist and other comfort items from home ( family photos, comfort blanket or other things that help calm you). Homebirths require so much preparation and education and while it’s your own body and your own birth it’s important to remember that births can definitely go unexpectedly. I hope this comment didn’t come off negative in any way this was just an idea to help merge both ideas!

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White Coat syndrome, where your heart rate  and BP elevate is a thing.  Pregnancy or not. It’s nerves.  Mine always does even when it’s a routine physical  and they end up taking both multiple times when I’m at an office visit and it usually settles by the last time they take it.  
Unless you have a scheduled induction or c section you can’t really control which doctor delivers your baby.  Even in that scenario you never know what emergencies may come up for them where they may not be available or if you go into labor earlier or later than thought.  
If an at home birth is truly what you want then take the steps necessary to figure out how to do that with  your doctor ( or whatever doctor will be on call), or a midwife, doula, or whatever and how to make that happen while being prepared that a hospital visit or delivery may be needed if there are complications.

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Watch the documentary The Business of Being Born. It might still be on YouTube. I myself was more comfortable at home and had 4 beautiful home births with 2 to 3 midwives and my husband in attendance.

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I had a home birth, it was beautiful. I was healthy during my pregnancy, so I felt comfortable giving it a shot. I plan to do another one if i get the chance. You can message me with any questions if you have any, Id be happy to tell you my full experience. I did have a full plan/route incase anything went wrong.

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I’m having a home birth as well and get a lot of people who are fearful trying to change my mind. 
I’d recommend listening to the podcast “free birth society” and reading a book called “ten moons”. You can find a free PDF of the book online using google; I just read it recently

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