Bladder tumor while pregnant

I am 10 weeks today and at my last ultrasound the doc saw a mass that looked to be in my bladder. I saw a urologist on Tuesday and they did a cystoscope that showed a quarter sized tumor in my bladder. I’m 27 and have never smoked so I guess this puts me in the extremely rare category. The doctor who my husband and I found incredible heartless told us we need to figure out how badly we want the baby… horrible thing to say. He said that if I undergo surgery it will most likely compromise my pregnancy but I’m also highly risking my health and babies by not doing the surgery. Has anyone had any sort of situation like this? I don’t know for sure if it’s cancer but doctor was alluding to it being cancer. I’m so depressed and not sure what to do. I go to the OB tomorrow to hopefully be transferred to a better hospital. I just feel incredibly lost and beside myself.