Tired of seeking for validation

I realized recently that I look for validation from work, even after of years of getting over looking for approval from others. I have emotional traumas from my mom growing up that I have to look a certain way or act a way that accepts all types of respect including disrespect because that what “god would want.” Of course I had a phase I would post my life on social media and show off as a teenager and young 20s, and would trip over what people thought of me and how many friends I have. Once I moved out and started my own family, I’ve became more transparent if don’t like something and not fear of repercussions. I don’t live through social media anymore because I feel busy with my outside world, I no longer have that feeling of needing to post. Anyone who wants to know what’s going on with me I’m open book, but I still have a lingering issue, I easily get discouraged at work and will leave when I don’t feel appreciated. I find it annoying about myself because I get sensitive if I don’t get rewards or a shout out, then I have to learn a whole new position and its environment. I know most companies don’t care what you need mentally they just need you to work or be replaced. I get it, job is job. But for example right now, I’ve been at this job for a year now and received a promotion, I did not receive a congratulations shout out in our social platform (slack). But other incoming employees and management has within the same month. I have gotten upset and cried. I almost said something but I refrained because I fear I would embarrass myself and jeopardize my job. Let alone I feel silly even though this is how I feel internally, I don’t want my husband to worry either he will just encourage me to leave lol. How do I overcome this anxiety and genuinely feel “this is a job, clock in/clock out, get your money”?