Are there any good husbands out there?

I have 2 kids with the same man. However, its always me doin everything for the kids. Currently on mat leave. Feeding, bathing, putting to bed, laundry, washing bottles, doctors app, etc. Icant say anything or else he will get mad. He says he does everything else like mowing the grass, oil change, change car tires, go to work. Am i missingg something? He should still put in effort with parenting . Just because he does those things does not mean he gets to relax. We always fight about the same thing. Nothing changes. How does he not understand how exhausting it can be with 2 kids all day everyday and that i need help/a break. One kid is attached to me and other is still 8 months. Sigh.. my feelings dont matter. He always turns it bsck to him like hes the tired one etc. Im the one who wakes up at night with 8 month old while he sleeps in a bed in a room to himself. How can i make him understand?? I think i might be falling out of love from building up resentment. Is there a way to fix things? We fight over same thing all the time.