Don’t think I’m a overreacting

Yesterday, I cooked and baked one of my husband’s favorite meals and cake. Then I went to to work, we haven’t seen each other for past few days because of our work schedule overlap. His aunt and parents came in the morning to congratulate him and we didn’t have family time at all. He got frustrated with our toddler son throwing the toy and because I didn’t correct him, he offended me in front of his parents that I’m awful at disciplining, than I said he isn’t doing much better. But I left it at that.

Afterwards, I finished decorating the cake this morning while he was in the shower and when he finished he went straight to the bedroom watching a movie. While I was in the living room with the kids. I asked if he’s coming over, and he was mad. He said he showered with lukewarm water because I “stole” the hot water. I wasn’t aware of it at all but instead of talking he was pouting like a child. I was so upset, we spend the whole afternoon separate rooms. In the evening, I asked if he wants his birthday cake and purposely to aggravate me he asked what kind of cake it is. I said it’s a surprise birthday cake and wouldn’t answer me. We argued he said thanks for a nice birthday. But I don’t feel like I did anything wrong here! He’s been on my case all day and the whole week.

I took a slice out and eventually slammed infront of him. I’ve been hysterically crying on and off all day. I told him, I did it all for him but he doesn’t seem to appreciate it.

Because I feel like he’s picking on me and now I’m to blame for the miserable day. I’m so sad and angry at the same time. Am I overreacting?