Am I the A-hole?

My husband is on dialysis and ever since he had a temp port put in he says he can’t get hard. We havent been intimate in at least 3 months and before that almost 5.. I have never complained cause he can please amazing with everything else! I just saw 90% of his phone is porn, I know I was snooping but curiosity got the best of me.. he tried to explain that him not getting hard is messing with him mentally, cause he doesn’t feel like a man. But all he does in his free time is watch porn cause he’s trying to get it to work, his words.. am I the asshole for getting upset??