hello, my husband has a bad porn addiction. it’s been an on going battle. we are both christian so it’s obviously against our faith. I have tried to talk with him multiple times and it keeps coming and going. Idk what else to do..

we’ve been together for close to 10 years, but we’re both in our early -mid 20s and have two kids. I’ve tried to make it okay if there are weeks that we aren’t able to have sex due to travel, company, kids etc etc but the last 2 years it’s been affecting our sex life and whole relationship (not because we’re fighting about the porn so much, just no affection)

I really think he’s not attracted to me anymore. he only compliments me when i get all done up like hair and makeup or wear a tight fitting outfit. He also recently told me out of no where that he “wouldn’t be opposed to me getting a boob job” that hurt my feelings, because i know he doesn’t like my

boobs. i’ve been breastfeeding for over 2 years so of course my boobs are saggy and they’re small. the prob he watch is ONLY blonde haired girls with obvious boob jobs, im brunette. i’m so upset. I’ve only ever joked once about getting a boob job and i told him it was a joke. i joked that “maybe he should pay for a boob job since I saved money on formula” and i laughed and said just kidding. that was at least a year ago when my youngest was a few months old.

i hate being one of those girls that is so against porn but dang, it’s ruined our relationship. I don’t want to leave him, i love him, but i don’t think he’s attracted to me honestly. when we have sex, it just seems like he’s trying to re create some porn scene and it makes me uncomfortable, i want to have sex with him but half way though i feel like im supposed to be putting on a show for him or i keep thinking that he’s thinking about porn. he doesn’t even look at me when we’re having sex..