I’m 6 months pregnant with our second child. I have gestational diabetes and stage 2 hypertension. I’m really struggling with my pregnancy I feel lonely, in pain and depressed. I’ve voiced my concerns to my husband because we have moved overseas we only really have each other. He’s been overall really shitty during my pregnancy. During my first trimester I had very bad sickness he didn’t help at all. I was and am still expected to get in as normal with home life and our 3 year old.

Any time I need more from him he gets off to work. I ended up in hospital one night due to high blood pressure I discharged myself because I was worried about being home for my 3 year old. Husband said he’ll take a day off work to help me and look after me. He didn’t, he went to work. If ever I am in need or need more help whether it’s domestic or for my health he shuts down. I’m a good wife my home is clean I cook I look after my child and raise him well and I respect my husbands space, career and time. I wrote my husband a letter and explained I need compassion and care from him. I told him this is the final straw however today I had some crap feedback from day care. Our son has been misbehaving in daycare, basically copying one of the naughty boys. I’m not overly concerned but I did express concern to the day care staff as I won’t tolerate rudeness and poor behaviour from our child. We made a plan, I said I can work on myself and slow down in order to really listen to my child and work on timeout and explain why what how etc. I approached my husband to make sure we’re both on the same page, as per he completely shut down on me and stopped responding. In short I just want to book one way tickets back to my homeland with my child and feel I have nothing left to give. My health it getting worse and I have no care or support from this man. I feel I’m reaching the end of what I have to give him.

He’s been ill with a cold, I’ve been making sure he’s topped up with medication and vitamins which he won’t take. I have to keep reminding him. I made him his favourite spicy food in order to help get him better. Whilst I was cooking I pissed myself, I had food on the stove, the day care calling me, my child up and down who also needed feeding and my back was starting to hurt as I mentioned I’m 6 months pregnant. He didn’t once think to offer help but this is the norm. There’s so many other issues but I honestly don’t aH e the energy to type it. My blood pressure is currently high and I have a banging headache.

He told me if I don’t leave him alone in bed, which is what Ive done all weekend that tomorrow after my hospital appointment he’s going to go to work. This is an odd threat as it doesn’t mean anything to me whether he’s home or not or he’s stays out late for work. 90% of parenting is on me which is fine he brings in the bread which I respect. I’ve needed compassion from this man for years but I’m hitting a wall and I’m starting to feel it’s all pointless.

Anyone been through something similar? Am I over reacting? Should I leave or reflect on my own behaviour and attitude? Please help. Thanks for reading