Confused!

So me(22) and my boyfriend(22) are dating for over 3 years now. We were each others childhood crushes and after 6 years we finally started dating. My family background is not orthodox but they want me to focus on studies and career more than relationships. They dont know about him as my boyfriend but just a friend.

Since childhood i have been a girl who doesn’t go out much. Suddenly after dating, i go out with him hangout and chill. My parents dont really appreciate me for hanging out with one boy almost everyday. There are so much clashes aswell. I can’t tell them about us because if i do, and if I perform bad in my studies, my boyfriend would be an easy target for them which I don’t want them to think about him.

My boyfriend on the other side won’t understand my situation and would get mad at me and my family every now and then when I couldn’t meet him. He would bad mouth my parents which i don’t appreciate. Him and I other than not meeting, have many clashes as well where he would badmouth my college and would bring up my past failures in academics. He would sometimes pressure me to not pursue any career.

I don’t know what to do about this.