Is it controlling to ask my bf to move out of his apartment

Long story short, me and my boyfriend separated in June. We had always talked about moving in together in the fall. We still talked throughout the summer as I was trying to make it work (we broke up initially bc of an argument I caused) and although he would tell me he wants to get back together too, he couldn’t commit.

My heart was shattered when I found out he had gotten an apartment in the city with his friends behind my back in September. He is 27 years old, so I was quite upset by this bc i knew it would become a big party. And of course i was right. He goes out with his roommates very late on the weekends (3:30am) and has after parties where his friends invite girls.

We got back together last month, and I told him how I felt about the apartment and that I didn’t feel I wanted to get into a relationship that feels more immature. At 27 years old my partner should not be going out and partying every weekend like he’s single and then having girls back afterwards. Special occasions and birthdays sure, but every weekend is just unnecessary.

Well, I gave him this opportunity to show me he can prioritize a relationship over going out. And within 3 weeks of being back together he failed. I had asked him to come over or do something and he said no, then proceeded to go out when his friends until 3:30am and have girls back afterwards. He knew I was upset the moment he told me he was going out, but he made zero effort to respect my feelings or make better decisions to put me first. So, I ended it. These men (sorry, I mean BOYS) never want to grow up I swear!!!!

Now two weeks later he finally reaches out, initially saying I’m making a mistake walking away from this over something silly. (I’m walking away from someone who doesn’t have respect for my feelings and who can’t stick to their own commitments, not silly). I had to explain to this 27 year old man what he did that was not right, for him to understand. Now he’s asking me if there’s anything he can do. I said the only way I’d give this another chance is if he gets out of his lease. Bc it’s a distraction and clearly he doesn’t have the balls to tell his grown ass friends that he’d rather hang out with his gf. Is this asking too much of him or being controlling?