Mil and drama

Ok I posted prior about my mil blaming me for not having a relationship with her grandkids but she treats me like crap and makes no effort to see the kids.

She wanted to have a first sleepover with Judy our oldest who is five. Fine. She didn't want Saturday because she didn't want him to go to church with her Sunday and didn't want me to pick him up prior to church. Fine. She wanted him on Friday but wanted to leave him with my 84 dementia fil Saturday morning so she could go to a swimming class. We told her no he can't watch him.

We offered her Thursday as my son is off of school Friday this week. And they could join us to watch a hockey game prior to the sleepover. They accepted.

Now she told my husband she is taking our son an hour away on Friday afternoon to a coffee shop. A coffee shop in a bad area. My husband told her no to taking him a year ago to the same coffee shop. So I'm not sure why she would think it's ok.

My husband exploded on me tonight saying this is all going horrible and he can't tell her what she can and can't do with our children. I explained he can and that he didn't want her driving that far an in a bad area this has nothing to do with me so stop yelling.

She then requested I don't leave my home so in case at any point she is tired of my son she can drop him off.

I don't know what the whole point of any of this is if she is being so difficult. I explained I could pick him up first thing in the morning or we could set a time and she refuses to do so.

My mother in law is literally creating problems and controlling now what I can do. She has never driven him prior or done anything with him ever alone. She complains she never gets a chance but makes no effort. I told her I will gladly stay home all day Friday and she can check in at any point.

I then told my husband privately I'm done talking to him and I expect an apology for the yelling at me. He needs to handle his family his mom and learn to communicate on his own.

I am damned if I do and if I don't. If I don't make accommodations I'm withholding the children and if I hold boundaries everyone is incapable of behaving normal. I legit would rather just not ever plan anything.