I became a mom at 21 but I’m noticing that majority of people I work with who are around my age don’t have kids. Idk maybe it’s showing that this upcoming generation is more hesitant to have kids than before but now I’m 25. And I did find out I’m pregnant again but I haven’t announced it at work yet and I just heard a conversation that validates my reasoning.

Well there is one other coworker who just had a baby at 23 so she’s also a young mom but we’re the only ones. Idk tho because I think my manger is 26-27 and she’s also pregnant. It’s just difficult to really relate to them because I was 21 yrs old, and I don’t work with them at all. I work nightshift so it’s mostly young people without kids bc if you have kids usually you work days so you’d be home with them.

So I often feel left out especially when I heard a conversation about how they see people their age getting married/having kids and they’re like omg I couldn’t imagine doing that and yeah I’ve changed so much it’s insane so I could never have kids that young.

Idk it makes me sorta feel left out that I didn’t wait to have kids like they did and I have a daughter already. I just wish I worked with more people my age who had kids. There are older ladies but they’re in their thirties/forties so perhaps they had kids when they were my age but now they’re aren’t my age so I can’t really relate to them.

This is why I’m hesitant to announce my 2nd pregnancy. People are so judgemental, like one girl was like yeah I have friends and I can’t believe they’re already on their second and they just got married so I thought that was kinda late to be getting married. Like wtf who are you to judge when ppl get married and have kids? Idk I’ve just always dreamed of having kids since I was a teen so I’ve always wanted them.

Maybe if I was more patient I’d wait until I was older or hold off. I can’t undo my daughter and this pregnancy, I live in Texas and abortion is illegal. Anyway, idk I’m on my 2nd while most of my coworkers my age aren’t even having kids. So Ik I’ll get judged because they were describing it as “kids having kids.” I mean I do agree I was super young and when I have patients who are my age with kids I realize like they’re super young to have kids and I was as well. Now it’s too late though and while I’m 25 now it’s still taboo at my job somehow? Is any age acceptable to have kids??

Idk how even younger moms deal with the judgment and discussion. I can barely do it when I was just 21 and now being 25. I’m also not with my daughters dad and I made a mistake super young choosing the wrong guy. And now I regret it bc he isn’t around for our daughter. And thinking about it makes me want to turn into a puddle of shame bc of how badly I screwed up choosing my daughters dad. :(