My husband asked if he's a housewife

I honestly didn't know how to respond to this. My husband had a really hard year last year. His dad died. He got into a car accident that flipped 4 different times. He's had to have surgery on his leg because of it and his step brother aka his step mom's son was supposed to be here to help him while he healed as for I had to work and instead decided to take advantage of him while he was high off opioids. My husband was prescribed them for pain and I think his step brother thought he wouldn't remember but he did. It was a terrible year. He also lost his step family on that side because of them being on his step brothers side even though his step brother confessed to what he had done on a recorded phone call. Very very terrible year. My husband tried to commit suicide before Thanksgiving. He never returned to work after and has kind of just been home. He's OCD so he's been putting a lot of his feelings into rearranging the house. Doing tela health therapy and trying new recipes to cook. I haven't really been on his ass about finding work since he seems to be finding some healing in cooking. Why he got upset is because my MIL and step FIL were over and he started kind of asking my husband about getting a job and he said he's looking and his step dad made a comment about being disappointed that he's turned into a house wife. When they left my husband asked was he seriously a housewife. I told him he's not a wife. I suppose he is a house husband and that made him upset and I guess it's just now hitting him that he's been unemployed since November and he started crying saying he's a loser. I think he's just letting his step dad get to him but do I say it's okay and it's fine that he's home as long as he's doing well mentally or do I encourage him to work?