He’s a very “I’d rather not kind of guy”💦🚫

My boyfriend and I rarely have sex. Maybe twice a month and we live together and sleep in the same bed every night. Yanno it’s not horrible it kind of makes our actual relationship a different kind of bond I think. I’d personally would like to have more sex but he would actually turn me down and it even got to the point to me being the the only one initiating it but he would always say no pretty much. Still actually… but now I just stopped initiating it completely so like I said we only have sex like twice a month maybe 3.

Things about him is that he works pretty much every day and does doubles on weekends so he be tired which is understandable, then he goes long times without showering (like almost 3 weeks) but he don’t stank like he has absolutely no body Oder. Which is wild to me honestly but I mean hey. But still the days he is home he’ll be playing his video games and what not or he will offer to watch a movie with me. But we literally just do not have sex and we don’t touch on eachother in a sexual way either. And I like to give him head but he just says I appreciate you but I’m ok.

Parts of me wonder if he’s ok lol the other part of me knows he’s a bit autistic, and the other parts of me sees it for the best especially being a believer (religious wise) and parts of me is seeing that our relationship is CLEARLY NOT BASED ON SEX AND LUST.

We are both 25 yrs old

What do you all think?

UPDATE‼️‼️‼️: I don’t really know if it’s depression… his car had went down since Christmas so I’ve been sharing mine and that’s something he’s gotta figure out. I can support him emotionally with that but not financially. He don’t even need me to support him financially

He’s in the process of trying to find another job, mind you he already has 2 and picked up even more hours. But he lost one because of the seasons changing so he DID have 3

He literally just works all day everyday and then presents himself as exhausted (which is understandable) and then he plays the games rather than getting In the shower. And to me it is a bit of a problem because we be laying in the same bed and you getting in bed with all the grimey germs from your 3 jobs.

Then he watches the markets like stock stuff and watches people gamble on YouTube then goes to sleep. He cuddles me every night though like literally the best cuddler in the world: but he never wants to have anything sexual going on.

And as far as him not showering I think it’s just cause he pushes it off and goes right back to work, or sleep, or games, and when he showers we never just took that as a “ok now we can” kinda thing. It’s really always been like this. But the not taking showers is honestly becoming a thing like “you used to shower a lot more what’s happend?” Idk what else to say🤷🏻‍♀️ and honestly I’d prefer he take a damn shower before we do anything literally today I finally initiated it Again after two weeks and he “said it’ll happen when it happens.” Sooo IDK 🤷🏻‍♀️