Step-dad’s mom died

I’ve been estranged from my mom for a year now. My stepdad cut me off 4 months ago, saying he couldn’t have a relationship with me unless I ‘forgave’ or ‘reconnected’ with my mom.

I have him blocked now because I was living in fear that he’d message me out of the blue again.

Step-dad texted my husband today telling him that his mom passed this morning. I’m not sure what to do. Normally I would call, send flowers, and attend the funeral. But I fear if I call he’ll launch into me and it’ll be traumatic.

I wasn’t close with her. I’ve sent her thank you cards and most recently a birth announcement with a message. Haven’t seen her in maybe a decade and before that a few times/year.

Maybe a letter? A card? I’m not sure what to do. I’ve always felt I related to my stepdad a lot because we were both abused by my mom. Any advice would be really helpful 🙏🏼