Causing an argument, legit?

Question

I was made aware from my husband today (that a word I use very often in a different language) is used wrong.
Later tonight, I was telling him something and he corrected me saying, I keep using the word incorrectly. I was really confused and searched it. I began to explain to him as to why I’ve been using it wrong and he kept saying it doesn’t matter it’s still wrong, you don’t have to justify yourself. I said, it would be nice of him to be a little bit curious as to why I keep making the same mistake and maybe we both could benefit from learning from it. He then tells me I’m making it a big deal out of it and start an argument. To which I said, I feel that he talks to me like I’m some dumbass and can’t be the slightest bothered as to ask WHY. 
I actually want him to be curious of my mind and feel he’s too lazy to even bother. He actually makes me feel like I’m stupid a lot of times. He doesn’t bother talking much about
Things with me, he either says doesn’t care, isn’t interested, it’s gossip. Feels like he’s resistant. Or labels me as a conspiracy theorist.
I want to be able to interact with him in more than shallow-everyday conversations. I really enjoy to dive into conversations with others and listen to how they think, feel. Is it too much to ask?
BTW, I’ve been using the German word “Eventuell” interchangeably as “eventually” but I did realize that they have different definitions.

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The reason you were using it wrong is because you didn’t know the real meaning….. doesn’t matter why you thought it meant something else. And honestly using words from other languages in the wrong way is kinda fucked up. Take 5 mins and figure out what shit means or don’t use it at all. I don’t understand why you’re so butthurt over this specific thing. I’m going to assume it’s more the straw breaking the camels back thing…  if he generally doesn’t show an interest in you, you need to tell him how you feel so you can figure out how to fix that… get therapy to help… or you need to leave.

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In my household we speak 3 languages, of which none is my mother tongue and 1 is my husband's mother tongue. So I know a thing or 2 about making mistakes...
He tends to mix up words, like receipt and recipe, I correct him, no explanation needed or asked as the words have a different meaning.
If I make a mistake, he corrects me as well. If it is in his mother tongue, I sometimes ask where I went wrong in my logic if the words are related, e.g. tavolo or tavola in italian. Similar but not the same usage. This is to learn, not to make excuses and expect him to let me use it my way.
We would never ever expect the other person to listen to a bs excuse as to why it is understandable and the mistake should be accepted, not corrected. I cannot even fathom the expectation, my husband should ask for my bs excuse and show interest in it🙄

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It would annoy me if someone was using a word incorrectly too, continuously, after I pointed it out. I’m not really interested in knowing the why behind the misuse, there’s nothing to learn, other than it’s annoying, I communicated, and the behavior continued. And if you don’t connect on a deeper level, why’d you marry him? Seems to me, that he’s not interested in what you are, he doesn’t care to put the effort in, and he’s been pretty clear about it. Is it too much to ask for someone to show interest in you? No. But in my opinion, it’s not too much to ask to marry someone you actually have a deeper connection with.

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Honestly, I would be irritated as hell if you were using a word in my native language(or any language for that matter) then have the audacity trying to rechange the meaning for your benefit. I wouldn't care about the reason either. That's like me using cochina and saying oh I mean like kitchen. Just because they sound alike doesn't mean that the meaning gets to be changed on my standards. That's not how language works and anyone that hears me use that would think I'm stupid too, not just my husband. You're choosing to be ignorant and telling him that you want to discuss it further so he can see how your mind works. Lol, I would definitely disregard you the way you are disregarding him. As far as just deeper conversations...maybe try to figure what he likes, learn about it, and try to discuss what he likes to talk about.

Causing an argument, legit?

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