Divorcing over house cleaning?

I’ve been in individual therapy for about a year now due to my marriage. For two years I’ve been actively communicating what I feel and what I need from my spouse. It’s usually over basic things like cleaning and basic consideration. If I ask him to help clean one thing like a bathroom, he’ll either lie about doing it or procrastinate. If he does do it, it isn’t 100% of the way. I’ve tried initiating marriage counseling, and we made it as far as the intake appointment. We had schedule conflicts with work and then issues consistently making it because of his job. He never expressed interest or put effort into continuing it. I’m the one who’d initially set it up. If I do bring up serious issues, such as “hey, I don’t think we’re doing okay” or “I’ve become apathetic and I’m tired of trying on my own” he doesn’t really respond or try to initiate serious conversations. His usual response to me feeling upset over something not being done or avoided is “nothing I ever do is good enough”. I’m not even asking for anything grand…I just want a partner who does their share of work. We both work full-time jobs. I feel crazy for considering divorcing over this, but I am literally doing it all alone otherwise. Has anyone else divorced over something like this? My therapist says the pattern they’re seeing can be considered abusive in a way considering I’ve done all I can to communicate, and he’s fully aware of the effect it has on me mentally. We don’t have kids or major assets, so it wouldn’t be a complicated separation.