He’s stealing my underwear 😭

*changed names for privacy*

I’m so sorry I’m not sure where is best to post this but I’m so upset over this incident and I just want help

So, a bit of background: almost three years ago, I moved in with my boyfriend Brian, who had been living with four friends, including one guy we’ll call Steve. Over time, we all became a big friend group, but now that everyone’s finished college and is in their mid-20s, we’re just not as close.

Fast forward to now: it’s me, Brian, Steve, and Susan in the house. Steve is awful to live with—he doesn’t have a job and instead of addressing issues like an adult, he just complains in a group chat with people who don’t live here anymore.

A few months ago, we noticed Steve wearing Brian’s clothes, which he clearly stole from the dryer. We didn’t confront him until Monday when he walked into the kitchen wearing my Boohoo hoodie! I was so shocked I couldn’t even speak. After he left, I told Brian, and he was furious and wanted to confront Steve, but I suggested we let it go and I’d just take it back next time he washes it.

Here’s where it gets crazy: yesterday, I was about to shower and noticed Steve's door was open. He wasn’t home, so I decided to go in and see if I could spot my jumper. I walked in and seen my jumper hanging up in his open wardrobe! I was so mad but I decided just to grab it and leave. Brian decided he wanted to go and look for his own clothes and went back into his wardrobe.. a second later he walks in holding MY RED THONG!! I had just put it into the dryer the evening before and Brian had went down that night and took our washing back upstairs, he had obviously went down before that and stole it out of the dryer !!!!

I felt absolutely disgusted and violated and I even cut up my thong to throw it away in case he somehow got his hands on it again. We reached out to our other friends for advice, and they all told Brian to confront him. So, he went in and at first, Steve denied everything. But Brian kept pressing him, and eventually, he cracked and admitted he stole it because he wanted to know how it felt?! Let’s just say that was NOT his real intention. Plus, he’s made some really disgusting sexual comments about me to our friends, which they told me about. I feel scared and violated in my own home and have no idea how to handle this moving forward. The whole group is coming over to our house on Saturday, but I’m really nervous about being around him. I’ve blocked him on everything. Any advice?

*update it has now been confirmed he WORE THEM because he liked that they were mine