Mom sucks all my energy

I have noticed that any time I’ve been spending time with my mom, I feel depleted and irritated. This is mainly because, I feel her “well meaning opinions/advice” just impacts me negatively. Explaining to her why I do the things I do, why I like the style.

She told me the other day, she has a lot of nice clothes she’s barely worn and maybe I should take a look at them. She then says, “but you don’t know how to dress and style your clothes” a comment (jab at me) wasn’t even necessary to say. It feels like, she’s constantly trying to fix me in how she wants me to be.

She also comments, I need to be more strict with my (small) kids, because kids of today are terrible, grow up to be materialistic, unappreciative assholes.

She just spews a lot of negativity and it rubs me the wrong way! I’m really trying to just ignore it and accept her the way she is but I don’t know how to not take it so personal.

I could spend more time with her if she was more pleasant to be around.