Husband mad about sex life…

My husband and I have sex roughly 4 times a month… (👀 I know that’s not good.) But I work full time & so all the cooking, cleaning and take care of our daughter all day every day. While he stays in his room and plays video games. There is no sort of romance or anything he does to make me feel wanted. We’ve talked about wanting another baby for a while and I truly thought it would happen & I would get a positive test this week… I started my period today and was kind of depressed about it. I told him about it and how I felt and he said “well if we did have another kid I’d have to get a pocket p*ssy because you definitely wouldn’t put out then!”

He’s also mad that we only have sex when I want to- not the other way around because I get headaches and just am genuinely too tired sometimes. And that’s allll my fault as always.

I have moments where I really don’t know if I want another child with him. The way he acts about sex makes me just not care about it. I don’t know what I’m looking for here… I guess just advice? How many times do you have sex a month? Do I need to spice up our sex life and just suck it up? I don’t know how to feel.