Is my husband gay?

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I dropped my husband off at work today and he accidentally left his phone. It doesn't know that I know his password but I do and I went through his phone and saw a lot of things that I didn't like. First he was sending other women messages, the messages weren't really anything major but I just feel like as a married you should be privately messaging single women. That just leaves a door open for opportunity. I think it's disrespectful! But the icing on the cake is I went to the Internet and a porn instantly started playing and it was transgenders having sex! A man dressed up as a woman with implants but he still had a Penis and another trans was sucking his dick! I'm so disgusted by this and I don't how what to say or how to approach him with it. Do you guys think my husband is gay or bisexual? Is this normal? He doesn't act gay tho! Please give me advice

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What is with people who cannot afford their SO even a bit of privacy?

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I have so many opinions... I'll keep it short and just say, if I were you I'd be glad I snooped. I don't get why people are making that the issue. You're his wife, he's crossed boundaries, and you had the right to know. I hope you guys work everything out. Marriage is worth fighting for.

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No not gay, wouldn't be messaging women if he was gay, and those transgender people are women

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In my opinion you're in the wrong for going through his phone in the first place. 
Second, guys watch "weird" porn all the time. Just ask him about it if it bothers you that much.

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Is Channing Tatum gay because he dressed up like Beyoncé, put makeup on, and danced to one of her songs? I DONT THINK SOOOOOOOOOO

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I don't think it necessarily means he's gay, a lot of girls watch lesbian porn and it doesn't mean they're gay. Idk you can make your own call about the text messages to other women. I feel like if you're married you should know your husband well enough to know if he's straight or not.

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Ok I don't understand what the big deal is about going through his phone. I look at my husbands phone and he looks at mine. We don't have anything to hide from one another. I'd be more pissed about him msging other women than the weird porn. You are going to have to talk to him about this since it's clearly bothering you.

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Watching trans porn does not a gay man make. There are a lot of men who love anal play, also not gay. In fact they say MOST men like a little finger back there because it's their most sensitive zone and I can tell you, prostate orgasm comes quickly and intensely for men. Really normal.

I don't judge people by their fantasies or fetishes. I'm also not closed minded in the bedroom and my spouse and I are open with what turns us on. Plus he could have stumbled on it accidentally, or not realized it was a transgendered porn, or it could have popped up when looking at something else.

Why would you be going through his phone? That's really the more important issue here.

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I think it's silly that you were irritated that he was messaging other women. Controlling. And it's porn.

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I wouldn't assume he's gay. I watch lesbian porn but I'm so straight.

I think porn is just a stimulant. Honestly if you are horny enough, you'll watch anything.

But I do think you should talk to him.

Tell him you don't like that he was messaging women. And that you find that disrespectful. And then just up front ask him why he was watching that porn.

The more up front you are, the better outcome.

Is my husband gay?

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