"Arranged" marriages??

J
I'm curious to see what you all think of this! I am Indian. And my parents are suggesting this. Except it would be a little different than what most people think. They talk to people and give the kids (me & whoever else) each other's numbers to talk to. And if the kids like each other they can start to date and get to know each other. I can't seem to agree with this. I'm 21 and not really looking to marry just yet. I have a boyfriend (who my parents don't know yet) and I am very happy. 
What are your thoughts? 🙃
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I love these modern arranged marriages. Basically where the families introduce you and then you get to know each other and decide. If both of you come from good families who value your happiness and self-worth they will pick good partners for you.The old-school arranged marriages get a bad rap because many of them had nothing to do with what was best for the couple but rather what each family could get out of the arrangement

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J • Jan 21, 2016
I don't agree with you but thanks for your opinion!

El

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Yeah that's very awkward for your bf lol I'd deffo tell your parents about him 😁 

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J • Jan 21, 2016
I will when we're ready too! :) I'm sure my parents would like him if they gave him a chance. However it's fairly new so I don't want them to ruin anything

La

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Why not tell them you already have a boyfriend, and introduce him to them. Maybe they will like him better than the one they wanted for u.You didn't tell us if YOU don't like the guy they choose for you, are you allowed to say no? Or will they force you? Your traditions are obviously different than ours. .I myself don't agree to an arraigned marriage, however, I don't have the same customs that you do. If that will not force you into it, then tell them about you dating someone already and see if they want to meet him

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J • Jan 21, 2016
However they are very weird about me dating and it's still new so I don't want to rush anything or ruin anything

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J • Jan 21, 2016
Well I do have a choice. If I don't want to I don't have to :)

An

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Is your boyfriend someone they wouldn't approve of? End of the day you need to do what is best for you. 

Sh

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My marriage wasn't arranged but my mom met my now husband when he was just a friend and she liked him for me right away. She's never been shy about telling me who was a good choice and she has been wrong before, but both my parents like my husband. Parents know us very well, better than we think so I would say if things don't work out with your bf (not hoping for that of course !) but give it a go!

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J • Jan 21, 2016
I know parents know us well but my situation is a little different. My parents don't know me as well as they think they do. At least in a way that they think they know who I need

Ja

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I like the idea. I am always for arranged marriages 😊in the end it's your choice.

Ja

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I like the idea. I am always for arranged marriages 😊in the end it's your choice.

So

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People in my husbands family were arranged marriages (to their own cousins) each to their own.