So my daughter is 5 ever since she has been born my husband and I have never ever asked anyone to watch her for any reason whatsoever.

So this is what happens. In order to get a favor out of us. My husband's relatives will ask to watch her. Saying things like. Hey her cousins miss her. So we take her over to spend the day they end up basically keeping her overnight every single time without our permission when we try to pick her up she is always at someone else's house which is very uncomfortable to me. But every single time they buy her new clothes, new shoes, new toys. She always comes back with something new and it makes me so mad because they will turn around and act like they did us a favor and therefore we owe them a favor in return. They either want money or for us to buy them something. A lot of times we act like we forgot because it isn't fair. So we stopped letting her go over. I'm not going to pay you to watch my kid when I didn't ask u in the first place ya know. And every time u did when I tried to come pick her up you beat around the bush so she could spend the night at your house. I should add that they basically ask to watch her because she is well behaved and their kids act crazy and she makes them calm down when she is around them. But ever since we have stopped letting her go over they have been asking for their kids to come over our house which is not cool because we have a 7 week old and we are always tired. So now they have resorted to dropping their kids off at our house unannounced saying they have to go do something real quick and don't come back for hours.

These aren't young parents by the way. His family that does this are 60+ years old. It's a very complicated situation. Basically my husband's aunts girlfriends son had some kids he was a deadbeat the mom was on drugs and my husband's uncles girlfriend gained custody of the kids. The girlfriend owns a business and is never there to take care of the kids and drops them off on my husband's uncle. So we really aren't related to these kids at all.

What should I do. It seems like saying no isn't enough. Because the uncle will just drop the kids off on our porch. Like he calls and asks if we are home. We stopped telling him we were home so lately he drives by to see if our cars are in the driveway or if the lights in the house are on. Idk what I'm supposed to do. Should I call the police when he drops them off?