I have been seperated for three years after a very emotional abusive relationship  . I have finally after getting financials together am able to file for a divorce. 

Although I know I don't want him back he goes out of his way to get under my skin now and then like some ex 's do.

Recently my friend has started telling me that she doesn't want to hear anything about it, which is fine.  I wouldn't have a problem with this if she didn't try and give me crap for not telling her about about having a secret friends with benifits with another mutual friend . I believe the term " I'm disappointed you didn't trust me enough to tell me "came up and that she expected me to tell her everything ( which I have a problem with in its self ) . I feel like I'm getting mixed signals here . On one hand she wants to know everything expect the stuff that is actually bugging me in a way. Am I wrong to feel this ?