Can you talk to you mom? Or any family ?

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So I just got in to huge fight with my mother I just don't agree with her and just don't like the person she is...I love her but just after awhile I find her fake. I'm a good daughter I promise I don't go out and I'm the one one out of 3 getting a degree a have a job and paying for my own schooling. Now I'm just sick and tried my family not talking me serious and thinking it's okay to step over my feelings and treat me the way they do.
 I'll give you one example of the people in dealing with:  my mom and I was talking about diet plans and then my father comes and says " I'm just gonna pretend I'm bulimic and only 95lbs and maybe I'll looses weight."  now in high school I was bulimic and was sent to a psychiatrist with them. And there was many time my father just told me to clean up the toilet after I grow up but I would keep it conceled cause to him I'm weak cause of it. There was even a time he was joking and said out let me stick a finger down my thoart. So when my father said what he did that
 I was like "that's not funny" and. Then he was so made at me and was like " you can't be talked to , your so over dramatic cut the shit!! I was serious" my mom just looked at me knowing he was wrong and when I wanted to talk about it all she did was say I needed a back nine and that just the way my father is and I should forgive and then said it's not right for me to cut my family out and tells me I'm insane and take things to personally. 
I'm always compare to my slibing and told I'm too weak in this world.....but she tells me I HAVE TO GET OVER MY PERFECT SELF AND NOT BE SO ANGRY AND BITTER AND GET OVER IT AND FORGIVE. 
but not once has my dad come and say sorry for all the time he stupily yelled at me. HE YELLED AT ME FOR SHUTTING OF A COFFEE POT. 
My. Mom even thinks I'm out to hurt her when all I did was grab her had and caressed her face as a term of endearment so she can know I'm sorry and told everyone I went to attack her. I promise to God I never hurt her like that. The only time I yell is when she won't stop and tells at me. 
Guys what do i do?

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I wouldn't have a relationship with anyone who treated me like that :/ tbh family doesn't mean they can treat you however they want :/

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I haven't talked to my biological mother since I left home at 16, almost 10 years ago. I haven't spoken to my biological father in almost 2 years. Sometimes family members are no longer family, especially when they are truly bad people. Your happiness is all that matters. If you need to cut your family off, stay strong and don't give in to their bs.

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I feel like I could have written this when I was 18-20yrs old. But here's what happened: I went away to college, played nice on holidays, became an adult and stopped taking things so personally. I know my dad's a jerk, he always has been and always will be. But now that I've acknowledged that and only have to see him a few times a month we get along great. Lol My mom for the most part is great but for a long time our relationship was strained due to bad decisions I made as a teen. Now that I'm married, have a successful career and have made a good life for myself she and I have a good relationship. I would say just distance yourself a but, focus on school and making good life decisions and your relationship with your parents will improve in the future. Everyone is quick to jump on the "toxic relastionship" bandwagon but people are people and family is no different. (Not saying there is no such thing as a toxic family relationship, I just think it's overplayed at times.) But anywho, good luck!

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My mom and I have always had problems, we fight like cats and dogs and when I was in college there was a time when I basically told her f you I'm doing it on my own. My family had money growing up so my mother always used it to control me, I ended up telling her that I was cutting myself off and wanted nothing to do with her, payed for my college, rent, utilities everything with my minimum wage job and 15 units. I worked my ass off that year trying to juggle both college and work and then they complained because I never came home to visit. We didn't finally get along until this year when I'm married and pregnant. I don't know your situation but I would definitely think about distancing your self from your family, not cutting ties but walk away and do your own thing for awhile and give them time to miss you. Sometimes parents really don't understand their child until their gone. Best of luck, mothers can be extremely difficult but hopefully you two will be able to find a common ground.

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It sounds like you're the family scapegoat. I was too. You either have to fight them to win or cut them off. It sounds like they aren't going to budge. You may be better off without them. Whatever you do, none of this is your fault!!! It's THEM not you! Read the book called "toxic parents" it's on Amazon.

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I think if you feel like the relationship is toxic, it's out to take a time out or even cut out. They might have titles like "dad" and "mom" and "family", but that doesn't give them the right to treat you like door mat. I think you should forgive them for your own peace of mind and then take a nice long time out from seeing them.

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My mom and I are pretty close but there are some things I don't talk her about cause she would freak out. And I haven't talked to my father in 7 months cause we just don't get along

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Me and my mom go out and do things together and we have fun but o rarely talk to her about my life.

Can you talk to you mom? Or any family ?

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