Baby shower. Am I being selfish?

Aja • Married • FTM • baby girl due May 2016
My head is spinning because I want MY shower to go a certain way. My husband hates when I refer to it as my shower, but aren't showers for the mom to be? I know, I know, co-ed showers are a thing of the now. But am I wrong for wanting to opt out of that? The fact that I want a really girly shower bothers him too. IT'S A GIRL! It just makes sense to me...but maybe I'm being selfish? 
There are things like diaper parties for guys, right? It's to the point where I was wrong for looking for potential shower locations without him. He hasn't put forth any effort to do so this far, & it needs to be done, so my hands are tied.