The father of my baby? Please help.

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I was in a long term abusive relationship. When I became strong enough to leave I rebounded with two men. Neither with any form of protection. Now I'm 12 weeks and dying to figure out who the dad is. Here are the dates. Hoping someone can help me..

Period 11/05
Sex with first guy 11/17
Positive ovulation test 11/20
Sex with second guy 11/21
Spotting 11/30
Due date of 08/14 (which doesn't add up to either)

Any ideas?

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Either one could be the dad really it's kinda close but I'd say the second guy. ..I'm not judging just curious .. sense u were tracking ur ovulation n had sex the day after u knew had a positive opk . We're u hoping to get pregnant. Again I'm not judging please sone take this wrong I'm really just curious lol  also u can have a paternity test done before the baby comes

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Why did you have unprotected sex with a stranger when you knew you were ovulating? Legit question.

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I'd say second guy but sperm can live up to 5 days I believe inside you.  So it could be either guy.  I would just have a paternity test done as soon as you are able to.  You can talk to your doctor and let them know you need one.  Good luck!

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Did you only take 1 ov test? Here are my dates if it helps:
Lp 11/9
1st Positive ov 11/21
Ovulated 11/22 (I get cramps bloated etc so I can tell)
Due date 8/15
Could be either, wives tale (girl sperm live longer but slower swimmers) would be guy 1 if it's a girl and guy 2 if it's a boy

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There is in utero testing to determine paternity. It's expensive but maybe the guys would split it ? They can tell who's the father by taking the mothers blood and testing the floating epithelials

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It could be either. Sperm can last up to five days. Why were you tracking your ovulation? I only started doing. Test for mine after 4 months of not preventing and seeing how things go. Seems like you wanted to get pregnant if your tracking it.

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Maybe this will help you I ovulated on 11/23 I am now 11 weeks and 5 days. My due date is august 15 I only had sex 2 times that month the first day was the 19 and the second was on the 21. I'm pretty positive I got pregnant on the 21 so if I was to guess since your due date is so close to mine you got pregnant by the 2nd guy. That's just my prediction based off of my dates since they are so close.

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First guy... If I calculate right you ovulate 2-3 days early. Making it his according to your die date. I can't explain my math but I feel like I figured it out lol

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Some girls track ovulation to know when To use extra protection. Also curious why u didn't? Do both guys know ur preggo?

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Honestly it's going to be hard to tell. But I can relate. 9 years ago I was engaged. He was abusive and also cheating on me. I finally left and had a rebound (so I thought) who I ended up dating for about six months. I found out I was pregant but I was young and didn't find out till I was already in my second trimester. At that point my "rebound" and I also broke up. Leaving it to be either man. As the father. My best advice is to let them both know. And try to not stress out. Make sure you use your support team when you need to talk, cry or even scream. And then do a paternity test after baby is here. Honestly it was really hard for me to do. But no matter what is going to be ok. This honestly happens to more women than they admit. Just try and stay calm for you and baby.

The father of my baby? Please help.

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