I used to never be able to get one during sex. But if you have a partner you are super comfortable with, I highly recommend this! Usually girls can't O because there's not enough clit stimulation at the same time. So, all up gotta do is get a small "personal massager" from the sex isle at a CVS (they're about 3 inches long), and hold it against the upper area during sex. You can have your man hold it if you're on top so you can go crazy. Trust me, the vibration plus sex all at the same time is actually heaven and I O every single time. Using a toy takes some getting used to but SO worth it!