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Well I'm a christian and I believe in virginity until marriage or that was what i thougth until I met my first an current boyfriend. He knew my beliefs  from the beginning of our relationship and was ok with but sudenly he changed his thought and tried to changed mine. We had a big fight and ended breaking up but we got back together because I decides that sometime in our relationship I was going to do it with him. In the moment i felt sure about that decision but I discovered that is not true. I don't feel good with myself and my beliefs and tried really hard to think like he does an let my faith behind but I just can't do it and won't do it. But I don't know if i should tel him all of this, i think that if I do tell him we will end breaking uo again and I dont want to. What should I do?
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wi

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Honesty is the best policy. If he truly loves you he will understand you and respect your wishes. And who knows maybe you will change your mind later on when you feel you can fully trust him.. Maybe you won't. That's your choice though :) don't ever let anyone ever pressure you.

Je

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If he can't support you in your beliefs he is not the right one for you! You should NEVER change who you are to accommodate someone else. They should love you for you. And he isnt the only man in this world. I am sure you could find someone who has the same beliefs as you. Good luck!!

Mi

MissJelly • Oct 15, 2014
Well said. I agree with you 100%. If he's pressuring you he's not right for you xx

Sa

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I did this too!! I was raised that way and I am praying my girl decided to do this too. Wait please wait till your married!! It's not common but only give one man your heart and body. I promise it's so worth it and the innocence of it all is beautiful. I commend you on the personal decision I know it's hard but it's so wonderful . And when he is a virgin too it's even more wonderful :-)

Ya

Ya • Oct 15, 2014
Thanks, that is what I really want to do but all his pressure at the moment made me doubt everything

Mr

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I am a Christian and also believe in waiting until marriage (not judging others who don't do that). I waited even though it was sometimes hard while dating. It's so worth waiting! It may be hard for him to understand, but you deserve to have your SO support your beliefs if they're important to you. Would you have wanted to change your mind if he hadn't said anything? If not, stick with your values. It's worth it :) 

Mr

Mrs K • Oct 18, 2014
Those beliefs. :)

Mr

Mrs K • Oct 18, 2014
Nothing against anyone who believes otherwise, I was just raised in a very conservative home and still hold strong to

Mr

Mrs K • Oct 18, 2014
My personal beliefs are just that sex is a very special thing that should just be between husband and wife, that's all!

De

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Tell him and is he breaks up with you for it he's not the one God has picked out for you

Me

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Stay with what you believe. Sex is great but you need to be ready for it and if he loves you he will understand and wait for you for as long time as you need. Good luck

Na

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Sex is not a bad thing. When you are ready you will know. I don't think you're there yet. Don't change your belief system for anyone. I think if you tell him everything that you're feeling he will respect that, and if he doesn't then it's his loss. 

Ka

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Don't compromise your beliefs and convictions for a boy. If he's not going to respect your beliefs and pressure you, then end the relationship. Relationships where the couple doesn't see eye to eye on something as important as sex are very difficult. 
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