Baby blues?

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This has been difficult to write.  I've kept these thoughts in and I finally needed to vent somewhere.  My family has been trying to keep an eye on me so I try to push it all aside around people.  I'm having a really tough time mentally.  I'm 8 weeks PP.  I gained 60 lbs while preggo.  I lost 20 within the first week due to water weight, but I've been stuck with 40 extra pounds since.  I can't get it down, everytime I go to find something to wear other than sweats I end up in tears because nothing fits.  I feel so ugly.  There are stretch marks all across my belly and I had no idea they were there until after I delivered.  I can't walk right because all of the swelling I had gave me heel Spurs so I limp everywhere.  
I love my baby girl and couldn't ask for a better behaved baby, but I feel disconnected a lot of the time.  I just look at her like she's another job I have to do my best at.  I count down the minutes until my husband gets home.  I'm still on maternity leave from my teaching job and I can't wait until I go back to work.  When people ask to hold her I don't hesitate to hand her over.  I see pictures of my life a year ago and long to have my life and body back.  
I feel like such an awful person for thinking all of these things.  I should be blessed, she's healthy and beautiful, and a lot of people would love to have what I have.  I feel like such a selfish jerk for it all.. And I bottle it all up and just explode in tears occasionally.  I'm so sorry if you read all of this.  I needed to get it out somewhere.  If my family even knew they would treat me with kid gloves.  I'm sorry.  Thank you.

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You need to talk with your doctor asap. I know it's hard but this does not sound like normal baby blues. Asking for help is the best thing you can do for you and your baby. I hope you start feeling better mama. You deserve to be happy and feel good about yourself 💙💙

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I felt the same way too. Don't be ashamed of your feelings. I remember being terrified of the night because it meant I had to be up to feed the baby, and no sleep. I cried when no one was around. I was terrified of being alone. I even cried while eating a pint of Hagen Daas!

This is what I had to do to ease the blues:

1. If you have the energy, go outside or run errands. Nothing helps ease your blues like having a small task, even if that small task is to go get yourself something to eat. The sunlight helps with the blues, tremendously.

2. Keep up with the prenatals. A lack of vitamins and Omega acids will contribute to these feelings.

3. Go shopping for some new clothes. Never mind that you gained some weight. This is inevitable. Focus only on finding clothes in your size, and work on getting that weight down later.

4. Don't skip out on the pain meds and stool softener! Pain also contributes to theses feelings.

5. Drink lots of water!

Good luck to you mama, and congrats!!!

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These are the same feelings I had. We can never be prepared as first time moms and it's a total system shock. But you're not alone, and actually realizing you're dealing with issues is a good thing. I do suggest talking to your doctor because they can help you with a lot of these feelings. It gets so much easier week by week, and eventually it becomes your life and you'll forget the life you even had before your little one. I hope the best for you.

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I think you need to speak with your dr. They can help you feel better.

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I do think you should talk to your doctor, but I also completely understand what you mean.

I gained 70 pounds during my pregnancy and am still waiting on 30 pounds to leave me. Not being able to wear my usual clothes was really hard for me, because pre-pregnancy, I was very fit and active, and now I kind of feel like I'm starting all over. I went out and bought two pairs of jeans to fit me now, and that has really helped. It's nice to wear normal jeans again, even if they aren't the size I want.

I also think some of us go through a mourning period for our old lives. Of course I love my baby and am thankful for her, but I definitely missed my old life at first and took awhile to adjust. Motherhood is a huge change!

So try to get some exercise and fresh air if you're feeling up to it. I know that really helps my brain feel better. Maybe consider buying yourself a nice outfit or some new jeans, because it might help your self esteem a bit. And also definitely talk to your doctor. You are normal, and motherhood can be really hard, but your doctor may be able to help you feel better, and that can only be a good thing. 😊

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I agree with everyone about talking with your doctor. Your feelings are not outside of normal... So do not e ashamed or feel selfish. I am 9 weeks PP FTM and it is hard! Your ENTIRE life is flipped upside down. My husband tried to relate once when I was crying my eyes out but he just doesnt get it. Fathers go through a lot of changes after baby but it's just not the same. Your body hasnt been yours for a year. You had to change everything a year ago and the changes will not stop. So between the hormones and lack of sleep and alone time, it is HARD! I commend you for opening up. Continue to open up. You are not alone!! As far as your body goes, remind yourself that it took 10 months to grow your child. Allow yourself at least that amount of time to get back to looking and feeling like you (I am trying too and easier said than done). In the meantime, try to do something a couple times a week that make you happy. For me, it is watching my favorite show uninterrupted or taking a shower until the hot water runs out. :)

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Hun I suffered from horrible ppd and still am its normal as long as ur not suicidal your fine talk to someone I got put on sertaline try to it might help it bringa up saratonin levels keep ur head up it gets better

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I feel the same way too. I was a lean mean fighting machine before I got pregnant. Now I'm left flapping in the window from a 50lb weight gain. I've also lost the same 20lbs but the other 30 just look and feel miserable. I can only wear my maternity clothes and yes it's depressing. HOWEVER... The more crap I eat the worse I feel. When I clean up my eating and go for a walk during the day I feel much much better about myself. I am checking into Weight Watchers tomorrow morning. You have to feel good and take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. Good luck and keep fighting!

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