Experience with Donors?

Shawn • Nerd. CNA. Vegan. Married to my soulmate & best friend. TTC #1 ??✨
My husband and I are TTC baby #1, but he is transgender, so this isn't something we can do by ourselves. We're not in the position financially to use a sperm bank, so we've been considering male friends to ask. Most of the guys we asked said yes, but never followed through, or changed their mind after talking with their wives (which we understand completely. Everyone needs to be 100% sure!)
​We're meeting with a very close friend of the family (who said he'd be honored to help!) tomorrow to discuss the details of how this will happen. I'm afraid to get my hopes too high.. Apparently it's easy to say yes.. But actually showing up to do their part seems to be an entirely different monster. 
​Has anyone dealt with anything like this before? Does anyone have any advice to maybe make him feel more  comfortable with following through? He knows better than most people just how badly we want to start our family.. Part of me worries that that may put too much pressure on him. Idk. I guess I'm just really nervous after getting my hopes so high so many times already, just to get burnt in the end. We really want this to work, and he's the ideal donor. What to do what to do. Thank you for any advice/ideas! <3 

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