Young Love (Long)
I've been on this app for all but 20 minutes. I am tired of seeing other women put down young girls because of their age. If the young women themselves are having sex, or think they're in love then let that be up to them. Do not shame them but support them and guide them. They do not need you making them feel worse by saying they are too young and that what they are going through is invalid. I am absolutely sure that you have felt the same way at one point and it doesn't matter what age these things come about but they happen. Yes, later on these young women may end up with their hearts broken or being wrong but somewhere on here there is a 14 year old who is discouraged from even looking at a boy (or girl) in fear of being put down and told she's too young. But middle school girls will date, and say they're in love and high school girls will too. Heaven knows I did. And they might have sex too. And that's okay. It's their bodies not yours and if you think sex should be something special then good for you. However, you are not the one to say that sex for them wasn't special based on their age. And even if you are "speaking from experience" then you should know that what they are feeling or have questions about is very valid especially during the time of occurance. So we should actually be there for these young women who are probably going through something that we all went through as well instead of against and unsupportive of them. Help them through what they are going through instead of just telling them they are too young to be in love or having sex.
-update-
So I got on here this morning and was surprised to see how much attention this post has brought. I started to go through the comments and saw a lot of posts about child pornography. Child pornography is not okay and you should not teach your child how to pose. However, if they are asking about "how to send nudes" then that would be a good time for you to have a talk with your daughter and if she is asking that then maybe a talk is overdue. I don't know how child pornography came up because it is not about that.
I also saw a comment saying my post was mostly about sex when I mostly wrote about love although clearly I was not specific enough about sex.
I am not advocating 14 year olds having sex but if they already are, yes, you might want to be harsh but teenagers nowadays do not respond to that with the intentions that we have. It's been like that for a while (not just nowadays). And if you want them to stop having sex then you need to be more understanding and get more light on a situation. A 14 year old might be asking about pregnancy because she was raped and already knows she's too young. It might not have been consensual. It might have been though. Truth is though, that you don't know. And it's okay for you to be curious, or want answers.
I am not saying when a child asks how to do things in sex that you should explain them. However, I think it's important that whenever a young women has questions about sex, that her questions are answered. When you're 13 or 14 usually is when girls start their periods and sometimes before that. Their bodies are changing and so are their minds. In another generation it meant they are ready to have kids of their own. That's when they start learning things but not everything that might be necessary to learn. So they are going to have questions and up to a certain appropriation, I believe we should answer them.
You can guide them in the right direction and if they are asking because they've already had sex then do the same. Explain yourself because these women are not too young to learn about these things and it is important for them to have support while learning.
For women 15 and above (15 is iffy I'll admit) if they are having sex, or thinking about it, you can still guide them away from it but at least make sure they are educated on how not to make mistakes and get pregnant, or STDs, STIs, etc. I'm not saying they should keep having sex, and I'm not saying that what they are doing is excused. But you need to ask questions as well before you make assumptions. If these women are having sex then they should know that they are not the worst person in the world because of it and there are far worse and disgusting things they could be doing.
To all the women who reached out to this post in positivity because you have been made to feel this way, I'm sorry. I appreciate your comments but would like to ask a favor. Next time this happens, instead of feeling attacked, defend and stand up for yourself because you have to be strong. All the adults telling you this things don't have as much life as you do to learn about so learn and grow and be proud and not taken down by other women.
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