How do you tell a friend?

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So I have this friend who has a very smelly private area. We used to always get dressed together and would take turns using the bathroom while the other does makeup. So basically I stopped and would not go in the bathroom while she was in there because her girly gives off this foul smell. I used to think "maybe she's on her period" but it smelled ALL THE TIME! When Christmas came around, 1 of our other friends who noticed the smell bought her alot of feminine products and I kinda seen that it pissed her off a little. I really want to tell her but I don't know how without hurting her feelings. I do want to come off as a bad friend to her, but at the same time I think I'm being a bad friend by not telling her. She's a sweet girl and her feelings are easily hurt, but I wouldn't want her to get embarrassed by a guy telling her that and lower her confidence. So I'm really asking, how do you tell your friend that her kitty has a smell in the most positive way? Or do I just not tell her at all? I'm really stuck 😕

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If she got feminine products for Christmas, and she was mad about it, she probably already knows.

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If I had a smelly vagina, I think I would know that ?? I don't need anyone telling me I'm an ADULT

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Leave her alone. She's an adult, I'm sure you would be telling her something she already knows. You have no idea what's going on. For all you know she has a condition she doesn't want to talk about with you.

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She's not your child there's absolutely no reason you need to bring up her vagina order? How is this effecting you in any way? She's an adult and I'm sure she's aware of her problem. It's no one else's business unless your intimate with her vagina and it becomes a problem

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If i were her I'd rather be told my a girl friend than a boyfriend. It's going to be embarrassing either way but at least it would get it out there. I truly don't know what I would do. If I was REALLY close with her, like as close as I am to my sister, I'd probably tell her and just be like "I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, I'm telling you because if it was me I'd want to know, but...." and end nicely.

I saw on a post that she uses Summers Eve. Personally....I hate that shit! She should use regular soap if anything, none of the funky stuff, I don't care how much SE boasts they're kitty friendly.

Also, you said it came on a couple months ago. I'd bet almost anything that it's bacterial vaginosis  (BV). I've had it and not fun. Antibiotics was the only thing that would know it out permanently. It can be caused from many things including sex. Personally I think mine was caused by sleeping with tampons (keeping them in too long).

If you decide to tell her, good luck! If she's a true good friend she'll be fine. Embarrassed maybe but she'll get over it.

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That's a tough one...I would just definitely make it clear that you're concerned for her "lady health" and not make it about the smell.

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I would start off with something like, "I want to tell you something, but I don't want to hurt your feelings and I definitely don't want you mad at me. But I've noticed when we use the bathroom together or you change in front of me, you have a strong smell coming from your girly area." But make it as nicely as you can!! 
In my opinion, I'd much rather have one of my girls to tell me, then a guy! Hopefully she doesn't take it bad! I've always been the honest girl in my group of friends so I just usually come straight out with it! I don't say it in a mean way, they usually know it's only because I care about them. And most of the time they will straight out ask me because they know I am real with them. But I've been friends with most of them for 16 years.

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She's probably got bacterial vaginosis which is just an overkill of yeast really. And using hygiene products down there only makes it worse because it washes away the good bacteria. I've had it. And a few of my friends too and it does smell rotten. But easily fixed with a course of antibiotics. Metranazadole normally does the job. It's not contagious and it's not an sti or std. Just an unbalance of bacteria. I actually had a friend comment about it to me when I had it. It was embarrassing at the time for obvious reasons  but I was worried id caught something or had something wrong with me so seeing my doctor actually put my mind at rest.  Saying that we were very close friends and we were alone. Had it have been in front of anyone I may have felt differently.

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