What the hell, hubby?

Question

So we went to court yesterday, over a ER bill of his that went to collection without us ever getting a notification or call (our so I thought).

As evidence, they had both the notification (which I had never seen before) and a transcript of a call to my husband in which they had an awful lot of info they couldn't have unless they talked to him.

Problem is, he swears he never got that call, and that they are making things up, but at the same time he refused to step up and testify to that fact...

I basically felt like he left me to fight that battle all on my own, either because he's lying about not getting the call, our he just didn't have the guts to step up... Neither is acceptable, and I'm not gonna lie, I repent how that whole shit show went.

Literally from day one I've handled everything to do with this case, and it's not even my bill. Like seriously, who keeps their mouth shut when their 19 week pregnant wife is sitting there being made to look like a liar in front of a judge, when the fact is, I was operating with what I believed to be the truth...

Seriously. What the hell, man?

Answer

I'm sure many of you will say that it's too harsh...but if MY SO acted like that,  I would have slapped him across the face and told him to get his ass up and testify. If he refused,  he's guilty. He lied to u. If he lied about a stupid bill, what else will he lie about in the future? And will  be able to live with it.
I would sit him down and talk to him.  Like seriously talk to him.  If he doesn't look like he wants to do right by you and willing to work out and get to the bottom. ..maybe it's better to part ways. I'm not sure a pregnant woman should be dealing with court crap that is not even your problem..

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Make him pay the bill . YOU dont stress or worry . Thats his fault . He was a dumbass and lied to you . I wouldn't be able to deal with that shit i would of walked right out and said sorry for wasting your time and threw the papers to my man , and said deal with this . Thats so disrespectful on his part

Answer

So, ultimately talk was had, and while I don't like that he refused to go up and speak (he had been warned that if he ever pulls that again, me and baby are out), I am choosing to move past this.

The fact is this is literally the only time I've ever had a concern about anything in regards to him. So I choose to believe him when he says that he didn't remember.

The fact is, during the date the call was made, based on their transcript of said call, he was working 10 to 16 hour days doing cleanup after the wildfires in our state. That I do know to be true. So, taking that in mind, he has been made to understand that if he ever is lying, I'm done with this all. but for now, barring any other issues that come up, I choose to forgive this, and move on. Forgive, but never forget.

As to why he didn't testify... He says he didn't feel he would make this any better and felt that the judge wouldn't believe him anyway, because of the info they had. Still wish he would have spoken up, but in all fairness, that wouldn't have mattered anyway to change the results. We still owe the debt, and there's not a damn thing we can do to change it. The only difference is a couple extra hundred in court fees. Live and learn, I guess. In the future I'll make sure I'm the primary point of contact for crap like this, since I do finances anyway.

What the hell, hubby?

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