I know you have to have rest and healing time both mentally and physical.my husband favorite singer is going to be at a club and he wants to go and also wants to take me out for a nice night out. But he keeps asking me how I feel and of course its not something that you can forget it has happened and the pain we feel I know I will heal fully with gods help, I mean I feel good and I want to go so that we both can have a lil time away after what we have been thru and I know that this is just a way of him getting thru too cuz we all grief differently. My question is how long did you wait to go out, or is it bad since you know the old wives tales need to have rest ...I'm honestly confuse and everybody's body is different...comments are greatly appreciated...