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Im 16 weeks pregnant. I never wanted to be pregnant, im only 22 years old but it happened. Because of a little mistake i made i now have a baby on the way. everybody around me is so happy for my pregnancy my boyfriend is super excited fo be a father. Its the first grandchild and everybody is so happy that they forget about how im feelling. 
  I couldnt be feeling worst. I cry all the time, i have no one to talk to, all mu friends that are moms told me they felt their life change when they found out they were pregnant. So why it didnt happen to me. Why i dont feel this change and this happiness im supposed to be feeling? Why i dont love this child that is growing inside me? Am i the only one who feels this way? Is there something wrong with me? I dont know what to do, i dont wanna go out anymore  im ashamed of how fat im getting idk what to do anymore

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A LOT of women are depressed and feel hopeless during their pregnancy. Part of how you're feeling is hormones and the general issues that come with being pregnant. There's nothing wrong with you, as a person, if you're feeling this way, you just aren't having an easy time of it. I can't tell you how many times I've bawled on the phone to my husband telling him I can't handle being pregnant and I hate this and just want it over with-- I do want the baby, this was planned, but it doesn't make it any easier. Most days I wonder if I'll make it to the birth without going completely crazy. If it was unplanned for you, of course you're feeling anxious and might not feel like this is what you want. Just wait until the baby gets here and see how you feel on the other side of pregnancy. I encourage you to find a therapist if you can to help you through because they can work with you on how to talk to your family and try and get a little understanding and support for what you're experiencing and feeling.

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While I do not have any children, it seems like you feel lost in this pregnancy like you are losing yourself. I believe the best advice I would tell is to try to talk to someone neutral that will not just have the excited thoughts about the baby; but someone that understands and wants guide u to the excitement everyone else is feeling by validating you and your sense of self. Try to get your angst out before the baby comes but

You got this!!! U seem to have a great support system. Congratulations

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I felt like that with my last 2 babies and it took me awhile to warm up my my son that I have now and it wasn't until I saw his face and held him. And for my baby I lost due to a miscarriage I didn't want him at all. So I know the feeling you would grow out of it. And now that I'm in a great relationship I'm ready for another one.

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You will probably bond with the child once you give birth. I know many moms that didn't feel happy until the baby was in their arms. Everyone is different just try and be positive

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