I need opinions ASAP!!

My husband and I went bowling tonight with some friends. We were there until about 12:45am and he was drinking and hanging out the whole time. I was staying to myself because I had a bit of a headache and was aggravated that he was drinking because he never knows when to stop. Afterwards some of them wanted to go to the bar but we have our niece and nephew so I said we couldn't go. Him and I drove separately to the bowling alley so he tells me he is going to take one of our friends to the bar because she is to drink to drive. Ok, I'm pissed at the point because he's tipsy himself and it's taking forever to leave and the kids are tired, obviously. I tell him ok but hurry up, I'm following you (I didn't want him getting pulled). We get to the bar and he tells me he's staying for a little bit. Now I'm furious. After arguing he comes home to help me settle the kids. I am pleading and crying telling him I don't want him to go. He tells me he's not doing anything wrong. He wants to hang out with our friends to shoot some pool and chill. He says I never hang out, I need to breathe sometimes. He doesn't ever hang out because he works a lot. I tell him that I would understand if I just didn't want to go out but I'm stuck because of the kids!! I tell him he's putting 30 minutes at a bar ahead of me!! Like, wtf, you're treating me like garbage for 30 freaking minutes!!! Soo he leaves. Still isn't back, hasn't been quite 30 minutes through. Soooo....let me hear it. Am I blowing it way out of proportion and being crazy? Am I right in feeling like I do? I'm not worried about cheating or anything like that. I just feel disrespected. This was something we've struggled with out entire marriage and over the past 1.5 years we haven't had this issue. I'm afraid things are just going to go back to how they were before if I can't control it.