Don't hate me for this 😳😳

I know a lot of you mommies are iui mom's and ivfs , please no judging but I feel like if I can't get pregnant naturally that I will feel like a failure that I need some kind of assistance to get pregnant if I do choose to do Ivf or iui I will be the first in my family 😐 to do so , I'm also worried if I can't get pregnant naturally that ivf and iui will be to expensive for us 💔 I guess I'm just looking for some words of encouragement from you ladies

=sincerely confused 😟