Is this normal ? I'm dying inside

Question

I broke up with my boyfriend because I felt like he was putting no effort into our relationship . I know he loves me and I know he wasn't cheating he just had a lot on his plate and I felt like I was supporting him in all aspects and getting nothing in return and I finally just had enough . He left for a few days I packed his stuff up for him and when he came to get it he asked if we could try to rebuild our relationship that he will stay at his moms to save money and take care of the things that have been stressing him out and that when we spend time together he will make the effort to be present and give me what I need and deserve . I was apprehensive because I still felt like he didn't want to hear my feelings and he didn't want to hear about how horrible he's made me feel the past 8 months . I stupidly kept texting him paragraphs about how he made me feel unappreciated and like I wasent enough . We were barely having sex and I just felt emotionally and mentally drained . He finally said fuck it and decided he was done and won't talk to me . His mom told me that I need to not try and contact him and give him a taste of his own medicine and make him realize what he's missing but I'm dying inside . I don't know if I feel this way because I know I beat a dead horse and kept pushing and pushing and he left and I feel like he dosent care or if this I just truly feel he is my person and I made a huge mistake . Does anyone have any advice for me I'm honestly struggling so much it's affecting my health and my work performance and I don't know what to do please help .

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Also, as far as him caring.. he's the one who brought up working through the relationship issues, so it sounds like he definitely cares. You are just holding all of that hurt inside you and not allowing yourself to see it.

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Read the book "He's Just Not That into You" If he isn't making the effort, why should you?

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Relationships are tough and sometimes you will go through times like that. You knew that he was super stressed and dealing with some stuff and if you weren't willing to tough it out then maybe he's not really your person. I know that sounds a bit harsh, but you just need to decide if this is what you want. If it's happening now, then it's likely that it will happen again. You deserve to be happy but you also need realize that commitment is through thick and thin. So think long and hard what you are willing to put up with. If you decide that he is worth it, I would apologize for putting more pressure on him when he's already going through so much and tell him that when and if he wants to, you would love start working on things. Just that. No need for a novel. I would also HIGHLY recommended that you read the 5 love languages and have him read it with you or separately. It will help you learn how to make each other feel wanted and fulfilled. Good luck!!!!

Is this normal ? I'm dying inside

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