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It's normal I would say. You're just doing what moms do. Worry. Lol I'm always worrying but at the end of the day I do what I know makes me happy😊 kids honestly make me happy!
I sometimes worry if I am making the right decision
I am posting this is controversy corner because some might think it's a controversial. I have been trying to get pregnant for almost a year. But every so often I go through these feelings that maybe I don't want another child. I have one already and I worry about all sorts of things. Money, health, my first child, the work, the stress, the effect on my body. I realize it sounds vain. But then other days I am so excited to have one and wish for another baby. And envision holiday dinners and sibling growing up together and happy times. But other days I go back to thinking about weight gain and sleepless nights and two tuitions, No more lavish vacations Etc.. Am I the only one that thinks this way. Please no judgment.
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We tried so hard for this baby for years and for the past 8 months all I've been doing is sitting here wondering what on earth I was thinking and how expensive everything is and how am I going to finish school again with another brand new baby, why did we do this now when I've finally gotten some of my freedom back..... I think it's pretty normal to want but wonder.
its completely normal to not always be 100% sure on having a second child! your being sensible by weighing up the odds, maybe try not to think about it for another year? What does your partner (if any, no judging if not was just asking☺️)
Da
I see what you mean hun, if you dont mine me asking how old are you?
Na
When I say regret. I mean regretting not trying my best to have a second child.
Na
He said if we can't have one he would be just as happy with just one. I agree we can't always be 100% on everything. And it is a big decision. But I feel like time is running out and I don't want to live with regret simply because I am overthinking it.
We've been TTC#3 for about 6 months. I also have my ups and downs about it. Some days I'm all about opks, logging symptoms & monitoring my body, dreaming and hoping. Other days I look at my kids & think aren't they enough, do I really need or want another. Some days I'm just so tired & think can I really handle another, do I spend enough quality time with the 2 I already have, will this be too hard for me? Im trying to loose weight and I think to myself can this body handle pregnancy again. If right now you can physically, mentally, and financially support another than why not? We can't predict the future. Just listen to you heart and do what best for you! Good luck!!
Na
So good to hear I am not alone. I go through similar thoughts too.
I think that is entirely normal. I do not have children and most days I'd love to have one but it's a significant change to your life (whether or not you already have a child) I too often wonder about my body, my free time, my marriage, if I'll be able to handle it, etc.I can't really give you any advice because I don't know what the best course of action is. But you certainly won't receive any judgement from me.
My SO wants another baby our daughter is almost 14 months. I constantly think of sleepless nights, weight gain, money, health, would my daughter like a sibling, all kinds of scenarios. So for now and the next 2 years at least I'm not planning any babies. But trust your gut maybe 6 months from now you'll be 100% ready.
How is this controversial ?
Br
Girl you have every right to complain about anything you want to complain about. It's not fixing or making there situation worse. That's like when people say "eat all your dinner there's people starving in Africa" what sense does that make
Na
Because This is a community about wanting to have a baby so bad. And I know there are plenty of woman who would do anything and to hear me say this may sound selfish to those who are having trouble conceiving.
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