consensual sex question???

Question

okay so I'm almost 21 now ((was 19 when I got w my boyfriend a lil over two years ago)) n when I got w him IN MY OPINION I was a virgin because I had never had CONSENSUAL sex with anyone before.  I was sexually assaulted at a party three months before I met Max ((my bf)) n I don't think the guy actually had sex with me ((I was all fucked up on xanax)) all I remember was he was on me n I know he tried at least cuz it hurt but he didn't actually do anything extensive I don't think??  either way my question is is it wrong for me to tell my boyfriend i was a virgin when we slept together??  cuz in my opinion I was I had never had sex with anyone of my own will before I just don't want to be a liar if it really is wrong of me to tell him that...  ((he knows about the assault))

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I think virginity is a social construct, it's different to everyone. If you consider yourself a virgin, then who's to tell you you aren't?

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I was molested as a toddler, growing up I had always questioned if I was a virgin or not. When I told my fiancé he said, "you are a virgin to me, you weren't given the choice so it doesn't count." If you tell him what happened he should lift you up and make you feel loved.

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Same with me and I would say yes. You were still a virgin. If it's taken away from you like that, then you have every right to take it back!

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