What do I want?!

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I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Obviously in love. He's all for marriage (within a year or more) and im not. 95% of the time im against marrying him. I don't want it and I don't want kids. Yet from time to time, I feel I want to get married and have a family one day. But I'm very bitter to him about this and other things in general. It feels like I'm pushing him away. Sometimes I could care less and others I think I'm stupid and would be crushed if we broke up. Hence, what do I want?! Has anyone else had extremely mixed emotions about their partner and a future? If so, how do I stop this roller coaster of emotions?

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I had the exact same feelings for my ex boyfriend. I loved him but every time he talked about getting married I'd shy away from him. We were together 3 1/2 years and one day it hit me. If it's been almost 4 years and I don't know for sure if I want to marry someone. I'm wasting his time and mine. It hurt when I broke up with him but as soon as he left I felt relief. When I started dating my now husband, I'll never forget the night I figured out he was the one for me. Me and my husband had been together 8 months and I was talking with a good friend about him and out it came, "he's it for me" I didn't even know it until I said it. I stopped thought about it for a second and was like "yep that just happened and it's 100% true." In less than a year I knew my husband was meant to be my husband. He didn't ask to marry me until we were together for almost 2 years but when we moved in together at around 1 year, we had talked about us heading in that direction. Knowing and then taking your time to be sure you know it's right is smart. Doubting and taking your time for that doubt to go away usually means it's not meant to be.

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I think you are just not ready for marriage yet. Have a good talk with him about it. Gd luck..😀

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I think this isn't something that's uncommon, well some of it. I'm engaged and I love my fiancé but I do sometimes think about marriage and freak out. I think it's normal to be worried about married especially if you're younger. It's a lifelong commitment that can be challenging to accept. Now what I can say is no one can tell you how to snap out of feeling this way but my advice to you would be, you need to seriously sit down and ask yourself, could you imagine you life without this man, do you want to be with him for the long haul, marriage or not? If you do, you need to come to some kind of compromise with him. Marriage to some people is so important and it sounds like it's super important to him to and if you're just shrugging it off like it means nothing to you, he's eventually going to walk away because you don't want to be in a fully committed relationship. It's 100%-100% in a relationship and it sounds like he's giving the 100 and you're currently at 50.

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I do feel that if you don't know that you want to marry your bf in less than a year amd be willing to put a ring on it (for the guys) you probably could find someone better for you.  Why waste anymore of your or his time. I was fortunate as my hubby proposed after 3 months. I held him off a little longer than that, but we were married before our one year dating anniversary.

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